XIXPrinciple 19 of 21

Forgive, to free your own attention

Forgiveness is not the excusing of harm and does not require reconciliation. It is the decision to stop spending present attention on a past injury.

KSHAMA · FORBEARANCE

Forgiveness is not the excusing of harm and does not require reconciliation. It is the decision to stop spending present attention on a past injury. Grievance is expensive precisely because it is carried in the only currency that cannot be replenished.

The practice

Identify one grievance you have carried for over a year and calculate, honestly, what it has cost you.

A question to carry

Who am I still arguing with in my head, and what is that argument costing me?

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