SANKALPA · RESOLVE, INTENTION
Most regretted actions were not wrong in execution but unexamined in motive. The interval between impulse and action is where a life is actually determined, and it can be lengthened by practice. Ask, before anything consequential: what is this for, and would I say so out loud?
The practice
Before your next difficult conversation, name your intention in one sentence. Then check afterwards whether you kept it.
A question to carry
What am I about to do whose real motive I would not want stated?